I think it is ideal to enter in to a relationship with a strong sense of self-worth, an ability to trust that other person you've chosen to be with and the capacity to take their needs in to consideration, whilst continuing to look after your own needs.
Expecting someone to save you or complete you is not perhaps the point of a relationship.
It puts a huge demand on the person doing all the supporting (JB is nodding his head at this point i'm 100% sure!)
I have to admit, i was 23 when i started going out with JB and i didn't have any of the above qualities to bring to the relationship. That would look great on a dating website no?
"No qualities - totally selfish and useless in a relationship - marry me".
I started seeing a therapist quite early on in our relationship.
I found that by investing quality time and energy in discovering my true self as well as learning how to let go of my baggage, I was able to be a better friend to all the great people in my life, a better partner to JB and much happier with my own sense of self...
Part 3 tomorrow :)