I am a firm believer in the philosophy that individuals should continually strive to be the best version of themselves that they can be. Maybe perfection isn't the end result, but progress?
I'm also a huge believer in taking responsibility for your actions, both with yourself and with others. I consider it an asset to be open-minded, to recognise constructive criticism for what it is, and to be able to accept a different point of view, even if you'll never adopt it yourself.
A lesson I've needed to learn in my relationship with JB, and it's something i am still not super at ease with, is to put my hands up and say sorry for whatever I said or I did that hurt or offended him. I trust JB, i know he would never abuse this and i realise that saying sorry is actually such a small gesture in the grand scheme of things, but if sincere, it can mean so much. And doesn't it make it easier to move on from the blooper moment? It's not morally right for JB to give me a free pass. I think it is an important lesson to learn, one which i have also learnt with certain close friends.
|Werd Amy - so wise!|
Then there are the situations with people who we thought were our friends, but as soon as there's any disagreement/tension, they just explode and put all the blame on you (whaaaaaaa?!). Instead of stepping back, looking at their own behaviour in relation to our reaction and seeing the part they may have played in the whole turn of events. And then working with you to put things right. Perhaps we've all been on both sides of this particular experience? I always thought this kind of drama would stop once we left university, but i'm still encountering it in my 20s. We never stop learning, and you know what, if friendships don't work out then maybe they weren't meant to be and hey, both parties get freed up and have more energy for other people/things. Always see the positive, right?!
I'm currently at a crossroads with a Someone in my life. It feels like what I want and what I need is being overlooked by Someone. My moral compass is telling me that it's not good to give Someone a free pass - that this would be enabling them to deny all responsibility for their past actions. That I'm seriously disrespecting myself if I don't get an apology from Someone for past actions, and therefore feel properly able to move on. Do i share this with Someone? Do i not? Do i stay in contact with Someone? Do i not? I wish Someone would find a way to see that I am here, and that I believe it's never too late to be whoever you want to be...
Anyway, i'm not a total party pooper guys. Isn't this a lovely sentiment? :)
And it's SO true !! So go and live your life to the fullest. Choose happiness as much as you can. At the end of the day, only you are responsible for you. But it's awesome to have friends and loved ones there to celebrate the highs and the lows. Find your people. Cherish them.
P.s. All photos are from my Inspiration board on Pinterest :)